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When complimenting a woman...avoid this ONE word.

As we found out today on the 3 o'clock Hot Topic, when a guy wants to tell his woman that she's attractive...avoid the use of "cute". I, like many guys, didn't know that was a baaaaad word until today.

Sure, if that's the goal and she's got pigtails and overalls on, you might get away with it. But if you mean "good looking", it doesn't always translate. Our SUN FM Hitslines rang busy for the hour and my inbox was filled with women who agreed that even with the best intentions, "cute" ranks at the bottom of adjectives they'd like to be referred to as. Apparently, "cute" is only when you describe puppies, babies, and little girls in Sunday School outfits. Some even hear "cute" and think he means "average".

It's funny, I could hear the men of the Okanagan taking good notes during the show, as we learned that some adjectives are better than others.

Words like stunning, striking, gorgeous, amazing, and incredible all got high votes from our female SUN FM listeners as their favs. Surprisingly, "beautiful" was high on some lists, but others considered it a bit generic. And what about "hot" and "sexy"? Some say they're only good in flirtatious situations, but otherwise pretty one-dimensional.

Oh, and as one listener passionately pointed out, don't follow up your compliment with "...to me". Granted, from a guy's perspective, we might think it's personalizing an already sweet sentiment, but with the wrong emphasis, it kinda cancels out the compliment. Apparently, you might as well be saying "...but everyone else thinks you're an ug-o" :-X

Ahh....the things you learn by tuning in every afternoon ;-)

Got a suggestion for a 3 o'clock Hot Topic? Drop me a line or call in me in-studio at 250-762-4487!

Thanks for spending your afternoons with me!

-Kevin Lim
99.9 SUN FM Afternoons 2-7pm PST
Kevin@thesun.net